*PottersLily

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The Make-Up Myth

Journal Entry: Sat Jun 21, 2008, 2:32 PM

I recently acquired a temporary job that requires me to walk around a crowded room soliciting potential customers for chair massage. 90% of these people are male.

My first day was last Sunday. I was walking around, asking people if they needed a few minutes on their shoulders and a couple of guys looked me up and down, snorted and said, "Uhm, no!" To which I did not take offense. I figured, they don't want massage, they don't want massage

But as I looked around the room, all the other girls were wearing make-up and had done their hair nice. I had just gotten off of my other job and I was pulling a 12 hour day, so I'm sure I looked awful. My second day was yesterday and I decided to do myself up a little nicer.

I never wear make-up so I had to ask my little sister for help. She was of course thrilled to do my hair and face. I admit, I looked way nicer than normal, but as I'm completely stubborn about "it's what's on the inside that counts" and blah blah blah, I don't put much stock in how I look. I mean, I definitely believe in good hygiene and combing your hair but not much else. Unfortunately that's not how the world works.

Even before I got to work, people were treating me very differently. Just kinder, gentler, sweeter to me. And when I got to work, I had no problem finding people who wanted massage. A couple of guys even sought me out to ask for massage. And people were calling me sweetheart! I NEVER get that! Even my dad said that he was relieved that I looked a little more together than usual!

I'm kind of disappointed that the world is this fucking shallow... but what can I do? I don't see that I have a choice if I want to be successful. And I still don't agree with judging people based on their looks, but, in the words of bugsy bunny... if you can't beat 'em, join 'em.

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*coNstantine2530

Jun 21, 2008, 5:52:12 PM

It's definitely REALLY sad. I don't wear make up either when I go to school cuz I find a bit uncomfortable (and it's forbidden in school but nobody cares, xD) but I remember the first time I went to a big party (2 years ago) my two male friends tought that I was an adult female at far sight! I mean, they even blushed, wtf (which is a proof that male-female friendship is also a myth, xDDD). Aaah, it's so difficult to find somebody that pays more attention to the inside than outside u.u
Ppl is shallow

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*Taigan

Jun 21, 2008, 8:14:36 PM

Sadly it's true. And it's not even that they're being that shallow. It's just that in a society where women tend to wear makeup, those who go without tend to look a bit washed-out, even sickly. Some of those men who treated you differently might not even be able to put their finger on what was different about you.

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*PottersLily

Jun 22, 2008, 1:17:07 AM

Yeah and I understand, but still... fuck that.

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*PottersLily

Jun 22, 2008, 1:27:52 AM

Yeah, one of the reasons I enjoy my online friendships as deeply as I do is because I'm being judge based on the content of my thoughts because there's not much else to judge!

And I know what you mean about the male-female relationship myth. I think girls are perfectly capable of it but most guys seems to be virtually incapable. Although, I have to say that in the 6 years I've been living as an adult I've been able to have 2 friendships with guys. One was 32 and the other was 65.

I've always been friends with older people and I think it was only possible because they were mature.

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*Taigan

Jun 22, 2008, 2:23:27 AM

I sincerely agree.

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*AmbientSounds

Jun 22, 2008, 11:19:52 AM

it's so, so true. =\ Unfortunately. Pisses me off too, but what can ya do? >.o I've had many similar experiences and sometimes it almost makes me angry to get that kind of attention, it's like... what, I'm not good enough for you unless I look like I just stepped out of a magazine? pfff.

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=joeyv7

Jun 22, 2008, 4:28:56 PM

Wearing makeup is programmed in my DNA, all the women in my family are like that. BUT I envy women who don't - you're not enslaved by the mirror. You wake up looking as good as you will all day. And women who don't wear makeup seem as happy as ones who do, have bf's/marriage as much as etc. etc . . . still it absolutely sucks that you get to come off one job & go to another to be made to feel small.

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